In the Service of Death and Dying

At the beginning nothing comes, in the middle nothing stays, in the end nothing goes. MIlarepa

Much of my work over the years has been working with people dying or dealing with issues around death, in general, or the death of someone close to them. This section, of articles and videos, is solely devoted to issues of death and dying.

In many ways it could easily be said or thought that I am doing this because I am heading into the twilight of my years, whatever that might mean. Or, I am heading down that final road in the autumn of my life. diane@gravestoneThat, as part of the baby-boomers, a keen interest in death and dying is present in our culture because a large cohort of the population is heading into their senior years. So be it. It is there. The new frontier: the end of life as we have known it. And, in this culture, in these times, one of our most valuable treasures, the elders, is discarded and seen as a burden.

Let me add here, that in no way do I believe in the end of life. there is no end to life. Look around you? Life is everywhere, and constant, without end. It keeps producing. Put pavement over it and eventually the pavement will crack and plants will grow. There is no stopping life. No matter what you do. It is endless.

I hope what is here is helpful, even though it is probably sparse right now. It is a new page for this website. It is my hope that what is here will serve as a tribute to that part of our life, to help us to appreciate and love the ending of life as we do the beginning of life. And, perhaps, to come to see that within the ending is also a new beginning.

“Your grief for what you’ve lost lifts a mirror up to where you’re bravely working.

Expecting the worst, you look, and instead, here’s the joyful face you’ve been wanting to see.

Your hand opens and closes and opens and closes.
If it were always a fist or always stretched open, you would be paralyzed.

Your deepest presence is in every small contracting and expanding, the two as beautifully balanced and coordinated as bird wings.” Rumi


Huge Haka Farewell to Fallen Comrad

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Why Grief is Love by Stephen Jenkinson


Being with Dying with Roshi Joan Hallifax


How We Grieve: Learning to Live with Loss by Maria Popova


In Memory: Marcia Deilhl


Death Is Only the Beginning by Alan Watts

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The Meaning of Death by Stephen Jenkinson